With tears in her eyes, a mom shared this with me, “We went to Grandma’s for Thanksgiving, as we do every year, but this time it was ruined. Our son stole money from his favorite Grandma. How could he stoop so low?”
Even though the conversation with this mom took place more than 33 years ago, I still remember the the sadness and disappointment on her face. For this mom to realize that her son loved to get high more than he loved his Grandma was just about too much too take.
Attachment, is believing that without a particular thing or person, you can not be happy. (Anthony De Mello)
What a simple and profound definition of addiction. The interesting thing is that this explains Co-dependency as well as it does a drug dependency.
“If you my dear child, are not happy, than I can’t be happy.”
So our kids get high to be happy and we make our happiness contingent on their happiness.
What a viscious cycle of insanity!
Parents, I want you to hear this message now.
The loving to get high syndrome needs our attention. There is something going on in the lives of our kids that we need to look at. If we ignore the signs and symptoms, it will morph into something more difficult to deal with, chemical dependency.
The hear and now that I’m using is actually a play on the words for here and now, which is a popular way to talk about where and how we should live our lives. The benefit of living in the here and now is that we are not going to be gripped by our past or overwhelmed with the future.
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